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Even if you have had the same friends for many years, sometimes we can feel let down by them. If you are finding that your friends are not there when you need them, or that you are being accused of neglecting them, then follow these top tips to strike the right friendship balance.
1. Initiate contact
A phone call, an email or dropping by for a visit is the normal way to stay in contact with friends and should be a shared responsibility between the two of you. If it is always you that makes the first move then they are displaying a lack of commitment to the relationship. Likewise, if you wait weeks to hear back from them, then it could be time to ask them why.
A phone call, an email or dropping by for a visit is the normal way to stay in contact with friends and should be a shared responsibility between the two of you. If it is always you that makes the first move then they are displaying a lack of commitment to the relationship. Likewise, if you wait weeks to hear back from them, then it could be time to ask them why.
2. Tardy timekeeping
Sitting on your own in a café or bar without your social armour (smart phone, magazine, book) is a daunting prospect for us all. If you find that you are often left waiting for friends to arrive for a lunch date and are still waiting half an hour after the arranged meeting time then you are right to feel rejected. If it is you that keeps friends waiting, perhaps they do not mean as much to you as they did in years before.
Sitting on your own in a café or bar without your social armour (smart phone, magazine, book) is a daunting prospect for us all. If you find that you are often left waiting for friends to arrive for a lunch date and are still waiting half an hour after the arranged meeting time then you are right to feel rejected. If it is you that keeps friends waiting, perhaps they do not mean as much to you as they did in years before.
3. Fighting your corner
Perhaps you find yourself agreeing with acquaintances who criticise your friends. This is a sign that you no longer hold them in high regard or that you are jealous of them. It could be that you feel let down by your friends or you find that they no longer fight your corner after an unpleasant interaction or experience.
Perhaps you find yourself agreeing with acquaintances who criticise your friends. This is a sign that you no longer hold them in high regard or that you are jealous of them. It could be that you feel let down by your friends or you find that they no longer fight your corner after an unpleasant interaction or experience.
4. Forgotten birthdays
An easy trap to fall into, particularly with our busy lives, but a forgotten birthday will leave you feeling like the rotten apple. If you are the guilty party, make sure you note down important dates in a diary or in your digital calendar and give your friend’s small, inexpensive gifts that show thought and careful consideration.
An easy trap to fall into, particularly with our busy lives, but a forgotten birthday will leave you feeling like the rotten apple. If you are the guilty party, make sure you note down important dates in a diary or in your digital calendar and give your friend’s small, inexpensive gifts that show thought and careful consideration.
5. Physical presence
Moving house, taking a pet to the vet or house sitting; there are all times when we could do with a little help from our friends. Physical support means taking time out of busy schedules and it is an important part of good, genuine friendships. It shows that you care and are prepared to put your life on hold to help out with the small things in life. And remember, you never know when you may need the favour returned.
Moving house, taking a pet to the vet or house sitting; there are all times when we could do with a little help from our friends. Physical support means taking time out of busy schedules and it is an important part of good, genuine friendships. It shows that you care and are prepared to put your life on hold to help out with the small things in life. And remember, you never know when you may need the favour returned.
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